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April 1, 2020

Why Not?!

Why Not?!

In this episode of Snack Size: The Podcast, The "Snack" of the Twin Cities, Lala Luzious talks about bouncing back from homelessness and how you deserve to be chasing the life of your dreams! Need another snack? Head on over to If you are a new...


In this episode of Snack Size: The Podcast, The "Snack" of the Twin Cities, Lala Luzious talks about bouncing back from homelessness and how you deserve to be chasing the life of your dreams! Need another snack? Head on over to www.snacksizepodcast.com If you are a new listener to Snack Size, we would love to hear from you! Don’t be afraid to say hello at lala@snacksizepodcast.com Follow Snack Size: The Podcast on Twitter: @podcast_snack Follow Lala on Instagram: @lalaluzious _____________ Intro and Interlude Music for "Snack Size"  is Lioness (Instrumental) by DayFox https://soundcloud.com/dayfox Free Download / Stream: https://bit.ly/lioness-instrumental Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/ZATMh49j49M
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WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.199 --> 00:00:05.080 Hey, what's up world? Welcome to snack size, the podcast that will 2 00:00:05.120 --> 00:00:09.830 drag you into your most fabulous life. I'm your host, La La Luscious, 3 00:00:10.070 --> 00:00:13.669 also known as the snack of the twin cities. I decided for myself 4 00:00:13.789 --> 00:00:16.589 that I can be whatever I want to be, so I decided to be 5 00:00:16.789 --> 00:00:20.629 a drag queen, and if I can live my dreams, you can to. 6 00:00:21.070 --> 00:00:24.699 The time has come to believe in yourself enough to turn your ideas into 7 00:00:24.739 --> 00:00:27.859 more than mere words, and, no matter what you were doing in life 8 00:00:27.859 --> 00:00:31.500 or where you want to go, I want to help you get there fabulously. 9 00:00:32.020 --> 00:00:40.969 Our ten minutes starts now. Hey, thanks, welcome to my very 10 00:00:41.009 --> 00:00:43.770 first episode of snack sighs, and, if you're listening, thank you so 11 00:00:43.850 --> 00:00:47.969 much for being here and beginning this journey with me. You may have no 12 00:00:48.090 --> 00:00:51.280 idea who I am, and that's okay. I have no idea who you 13 00:00:51.439 --> 00:00:54.759 are, so we have that in common and it's already great to meet you. 14 00:00:55.079 --> 00:00:58.640 I want to start off this episode by asking two questions, and the 15 00:00:58.840 --> 00:01:00.840 only thing I ask in return is that you be completely honest with me. 16 00:01:02.240 --> 00:01:04.709 I know that's a little bit difficult because we just met, but if you 17 00:01:04.829 --> 00:01:08.829 know anything about drag Queens. It's that we're completely honest and I'm always going 18 00:01:08.870 --> 00:01:11.510 to keep it real with you and in return, I want you to keep 19 00:01:11.549 --> 00:01:15.709 it real with me. So, if you want to imagine that I'm someone 20 00:01:15.750 --> 00:01:19.420 you trust completely, maybe that your boyfriend or your girlfriend or your best friend, 21 00:01:19.700 --> 00:01:23.219 doesn't matter, who just pretended, someone that you trust. My first 22 00:01:23.219 --> 00:01:27.620 question is, are you living the life of your dreams? Take a moment 23 00:01:27.700 --> 00:01:33.930 and let that sink in. Are you living the life of your dreams? 24 00:01:34.370 --> 00:01:37.250 Do you wake up every day, look in the mirror and say this is 25 00:01:37.489 --> 00:01:40.730 one hundred percent, without a doubt, the life I've dreamed about? If 26 00:01:40.769 --> 00:01:42.730 you can say that, then I am through for you and I want you 27 00:01:42.769 --> 00:01:46.090 to email me and tell me how you did it so I can put it 28 00:01:46.209 --> 00:01:49.319 in this podcast. But maybe you can't say that, and I want you 29 00:01:49.400 --> 00:01:55.359 to know from me, someone who would consider themselves living a fulfilled life, 30 00:01:55.719 --> 00:02:00.079 that it is okay and you aren't alone. The other day I was enjoying 31 00:02:00.159 --> 00:02:02.590 my morning snack and putting together what I wanted to talk about in this podcast 32 00:02:02.629 --> 00:02:07.510 series and I was reading an article in the Huffington post and it said that 33 00:02:07.670 --> 00:02:12.710 nine hundred million people in a hundred and forty two different countries are unfulfilled with 34 00:02:12.870 --> 00:02:15.060 what they do in life. It then said that in the US alone, 35 00:02:15.460 --> 00:02:20.539 seventy percent of people who are working are unhappy and don't care for what they 36 00:02:20.580 --> 00:02:24.900 do. That makes me so sad, and what's even scarier to think about 37 00:02:25.180 --> 00:02:28.900 is that those are just the people who are willing to talk about it. 38 00:02:29.620 --> 00:02:34.969 So many people live in silence every day about not being happy and fulfilled in 39 00:02:35.009 --> 00:02:38.610 their lives. So that leads me to my second question, and again I 40 00:02:38.770 --> 00:02:44.479 want you to answer honestly, very simple why not? Some people will say 41 00:02:44.520 --> 00:02:46.719 things like I won't be successful, or I'm too young or I'm too old, 42 00:02:46.759 --> 00:02:51.919 or I'll do it one day. Sometimes people feel because they don't have 43 00:02:52.039 --> 00:02:54.759 money or time or other resources, that they feel they can't make their dream 44 00:02:54.879 --> 00:02:59.990 happen. Others are scared of failure or being judged for their decisions, and 45 00:03:00.110 --> 00:03:02.830 so they choose easier and safer paths and the one that they truly want. 46 00:03:02.870 --> 00:03:08.349 All these statements are valid. Fear and doubt is a natural part of being 47 00:03:08.430 --> 00:03:13.300 human and growing into your own but what I want to tell you right now 48 00:03:13.740 --> 00:03:17.740 that these are not reasons, they are excuses. Excuses that hold us back 49 00:03:17.780 --> 00:03:23.780 from once in a lifetime opportunities, especially the one to change so that you 50 00:03:23.900 --> 00:03:29.210 can live your best, happy, fulfilled and most fabulous life. So again, 51 00:03:29.250 --> 00:03:32.770 I ask you, why not? Why settle for anything less than the 52 00:03:32.810 --> 00:03:36.810 life that you dreamed of? At the end of the day, we're all 53 00:03:36.849 --> 00:03:39.569 a product of the decisions we have made. Your friends and family aren't going 54 00:03:39.650 --> 00:03:44.039 to look back on their life and regret a decision that you didn't make. 55 00:03:44.840 --> 00:03:49.479 So why wait? Stop listening to excuses as to why you can't or why 56 00:03:49.520 --> 00:04:00.870 it won't work, and instead prove yourself wrong. Let me tell you a 57 00:04:00.949 --> 00:04:04.150 little bit about me. My name is Kevin, but my friends call me 58 00:04:04.189 --> 00:04:08.430 Lalla, which is my drag name, and since we are now becoming friends, 59 00:04:08.469 --> 00:04:11.379 you can call me Lalla too. I'm thirty one years old and I 60 00:04:11.500 --> 00:04:15.539 live in Minneapolis, Minnesota. By Day I'm on operations in a call center 61 00:04:15.659 --> 00:04:18.819 in Corporate America, and by night I transform and I perform all over the 62 00:04:18.899 --> 00:04:24.060 twin cities. It's a fabulous drag queen. When I'm on stage, right 63 00:04:24.139 --> 00:04:27.089 before I'm about to go on, there is a magical moment, and it 64 00:04:27.209 --> 00:04:30.769 happens every time I'm on stage. When the spotlight hits and the music starts 65 00:04:30.970 --> 00:04:34.730 and the crowd is filled with anticipation, waiting to see what I'm going to 66 00:04:34.850 --> 00:04:39.160 do. It's like I have them in the palm of my hand and I'm 67 00:04:39.319 --> 00:04:44.920 ready to entertain them. It's a moment where my fears and insecurities leave my 68 00:04:45.079 --> 00:04:50.120 body and I feel strong and empowered, majestic invincible. It is that moment 69 00:04:50.160 --> 00:04:56.389 when I know I'm fulfilling my passion and living my purpose. But it wasn't 70 00:04:56.389 --> 00:05:00.910 always that way. Even though now I have confidence and passion both in and 71 00:05:00.029 --> 00:05:05.189 out of drag, I remember a time when I struggled with well everything. 72 00:05:06.259 --> 00:05:11.459 My journey to where I'm at in life now is filled with mistakes, failures, 73 00:05:11.899 --> 00:05:15.939 embarrassment and even anchor both it myself and others. I want to tell 74 00:05:15.980 --> 00:05:19.259 you about the me eight years ago. It was one of the lowest points 75 00:05:19.259 --> 00:05:23.569 in my life. I had recently failed out of college and I was working 76 00:05:23.610 --> 00:05:27.490 a dead and serving job that couldn't pay my bills and, to be honest, 77 00:05:27.529 --> 00:05:30.370 I wasn't great and managing money at the time either. So ultimately I 78 00:05:30.449 --> 00:05:34.610 got evicted for my apartment. I had nowhere to go, so I packed 79 00:05:34.610 --> 00:05:39.240 as much of my belongings as I could in a backpack, which was pretty 80 00:05:39.240 --> 00:05:44.680 much nothing, and I was homeless. I had some toiletries by work uniform, 81 00:05:45.240 --> 00:05:48.639 a couple outfits, a laptop and my phone charger. That was it. 82 00:05:49.990 --> 00:05:53.509 So what I did was I would eat for free at work because we 83 00:05:53.589 --> 00:05:56.790 got a free meal every shift, and if I made enough at work to 84 00:05:56.829 --> 00:05:59.949 pay for a motel room, I did that and if I didn't, I 85 00:06:00.069 --> 00:06:02.629 had a friend who would let me crash on their couch. So one day 86 00:06:02.870 --> 00:06:06.860 I was all my friends couch and all this happened so quickly. I just 87 00:06:06.939 --> 00:06:11.980 kind of jumped into survival mode and I never had a moment to breathe and 88 00:06:12.139 --> 00:06:16.860 process the fact that I was homeless and I just started crying, but it 89 00:06:17.019 --> 00:06:20.290 was in a way I had never cried before. It was like it hit 90 00:06:20.370 --> 00:06:24.730 me all at once that I had fucked up my life. So I just 91 00:06:24.850 --> 00:06:29.209 had this deep emotional cry and when I calmed down, Oprah was on the 92 00:06:29.250 --> 00:06:32.439 screen and, as you know, with Oprah it's always something uplifting, but 93 00:06:33.120 --> 00:06:39.600 what she said changed my life. She said you are waiting on something better, 94 00:06:40.279 --> 00:06:45.120 but something better is waiting on you. That really resonated with me. 95 00:06:45.560 --> 00:06:48.269 Nothing changed right away, but to this day I still hold onto those words. 96 00:06:48.750 --> 00:06:53.069 So fast forward a couple years. I have a place and a job, 97 00:06:53.589 --> 00:06:57.029 doing better than I was, but again not living a happy and fulfilled 98 00:06:57.110 --> 00:07:00.629 life. I was short on rent and I saw a post on facebook for 99 00:07:00.709 --> 00:07:04.019 an amateur drag contest and you could win five hundred dollars. Well, at 100 00:07:04.139 --> 00:07:09.540 the time my rent was five hundred dollars. I had done drag a couple 101 00:07:09.579 --> 00:07:12.259 times in college and I loved it, but at the time I had other 102 00:07:12.379 --> 00:07:16.089 goals and never focused on it. So I entered the competition and I one. 103 00:07:16.810 --> 00:07:20.610 Not only did I win, the club started hiring me regularly, and 104 00:07:20.810 --> 00:07:25.569 that is how I began my career as a professional drag queen. It was 105 00:07:25.610 --> 00:07:29.250 also the same time that the life I had dreamed of, the one that 106 00:07:29.329 --> 00:07:33.639 I felt fulfilled and have purpose, began to take shape. Now, don't 107 00:07:33.639 --> 00:07:38.199 get me wrong, I'm not saying that the answer to your problems is being 108 00:07:38.279 --> 00:07:41.639 a drag queen, but if you want to, that's great and you should 109 00:07:41.639 --> 00:07:45.069 definitely do it. I know for me it is changed my whole life. 110 00:07:45.629 --> 00:07:47.949 What I am saying is that if you want something in your life, if 111 00:07:48.029 --> 00:07:53.149 you have goals. You want to achieve dreams you want to come true physical 112 00:07:53.230 --> 00:07:57.430 or metaphorical mountains you want to climb and you want to live your most fabulous 113 00:07:57.470 --> 00:08:00.860 life, but you just aren't quite there yet or don't even know where to 114 00:08:00.980 --> 00:08:03.819 start. I want to tell you that the only thing stopping you is you. 115 00:08:05.660 --> 00:08:09.500 Yes, there will be challenges, mistakes and hurdles, but I want 116 00:08:09.540 --> 00:08:13.610 to tell you that the only permission you need to follow your dreams is your 117 00:08:13.649 --> 00:08:16.329 own, and your dreams are out there waiting for you to find them. 118 00:08:18.370 --> 00:08:20.569 Now, at this point, you may ask yourself, why should you listen 119 00:08:20.569 --> 00:08:24.730 to me? What is different about me than other self help books, videos 120 00:08:24.769 --> 00:08:28.879 or podcast that you have listened to before? Well, I'll be honest. 121 00:08:30.120 --> 00:08:33.679 I'm not a doctor or a selfhelp professional. There are definitely times in life 122 00:08:33.879 --> 00:08:37.320 where you may need one of those people, and that's okay. There's nothing 123 00:08:37.360 --> 00:08:41.029 wrong with asking for help. Keep that in mind for a later episode. 124 00:08:41.990 --> 00:08:46.190 What I am is a person just like you, who had a dream that 125 00:08:46.230 --> 00:08:50.070 at one time I didn't even think was possible and I made it come true. 126 00:08:50.110 --> 00:08:54.470 Drag has given me so many experiences in which I meet a lot of 127 00:08:54.549 --> 00:08:58.259 people. More importantly, I meet a lot of different types of people. 128 00:08:58.820 --> 00:09:03.419 I have worked with some of the most interesting personalities this world has ever seen. 129 00:09:03.100 --> 00:09:07.100 No two people are ever the same, but I've noticed that no matter 130 00:09:07.139 --> 00:09:11.409 who I meet, we are all working towards the same thing, the pursuit 131 00:09:11.490 --> 00:09:15.570 of a happy and fulfilled life. For me, it's drag, but for 132 00:09:15.690 --> 00:09:18.929 you that may mean something different. Maybe it's getting your degree, owning a 133 00:09:20.049 --> 00:09:24.440 home, getting out of that boring job and starting your business. Maybe it's 134 00:09:24.480 --> 00:09:28.360 building a life with the person you love, or starting a family or finally 135 00:09:28.399 --> 00:09:31.759 pursuing a hobby that you have always secretly wanted to try. Maybe your life 136 00:09:31.759 --> 00:09:35.600 is filled with doing things that don't make you happy or, worse, make 137 00:09:35.639 --> 00:09:39.789 you feel empty, and you want to start living your life. For you, 138 00:09:39.789 --> 00:09:43.429 I'm here to tell you that, no matter what, you're happy or 139 00:09:43.470 --> 00:09:46.870 fulfilled. Life looks like it's yours if you want it, and actually it's 140 00:09:46.950 --> 00:09:50.830 what you deserve. How do I know this? Because I made it happen 141 00:09:50.950 --> 00:09:54.299 for me and now I'm living the life that I dreamed and guess what? 142 00:09:54.980 --> 00:09:58.860 Now I have more dreams and I work hard every day to make those dreams 143 00:09:58.899 --> 00:10:03.139 come true too. So from one human to another, through this podcast. 144 00:10:03.500 --> 00:10:07.409 I want to share with you how I change my life, and I know 145 00:10:07.529 --> 00:10:11.490 it will help you change your life too. Actually, this reminds me of 146 00:10:11.570 --> 00:10:13.850 a line from one of my favorite books as a child, Charlotte's Web, 147 00:10:15.210 --> 00:10:18.649 when Charlotte tells Wilburg, you have been my friend. That in itself is 148 00:10:18.809 --> 00:10:24.399 a tremendous thing. What's a life anyway? We're born, we live a 149 00:10:24.440 --> 00:10:28.279 little, we die. By helping you, perhaps I was trying to lift 150 00:10:28.279 --> 00:10:31.960 my own life up a trifle. Heaven knows, anyone's life can stand a 151 00:10:31.000 --> 00:10:35.750 little of that. If you're still listening, I can tell we're going to 152 00:10:35.830 --> 00:10:39.070 be great friends. Let's lift each other up and the next time you tell 153 00:10:39.110 --> 00:10:45.990 yourself that you can't, ask yourself why not. Don't be afraid of your 154 00:10:46.029 --> 00:10:50.980 own potential. Hey, snack I hope you enjoyed this episode. Remember you 155 00:10:52.139 --> 00:10:56.259 can get every episode of snack size on apple podcast, Google podcast and spotify. 156 00:10:56.779 --> 00:11:01.419 Let's keep the conversation going. If you have questions or feedback, don't 157 00:11:01.419 --> 00:11:05.769 be afraid to say hello at Lala, at snack size podcastcom and if you 158 00:11:05.850 --> 00:11:11.049 want to support my podcast, head on over to paypal dot me for its 159 00:11:11.409 --> 00:11:15.210 snack size podcast. Until next time go be fabulous.