Double Snack with Jaidynn Fierce!

WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.240 --> 00:00:05.080 Hey, what's up world? Welcome to snack size, the podcast that will 2 00:00:05.120 --> 00:00:09.669 drag you into your most fabulous life. I'm your host, Lolla Lush, 3 00:00:09.750 --> 00:00:13.669 has also known as the snack of the twin cities. I decided for myself 4 00:00:13.789 --> 00:00:16.629 that I can be whatever I want to be. So I decided to be 5 00:00:16.789 --> 00:00:20.629 a drag queen, and if I can live my dreams, you can to. 6 00:00:21.070 --> 00:00:24.699 The time has come to believe in yourself enough to turn your ideas into 7 00:00:24.780 --> 00:00:27.859 more than mere words. And, no matter what you were doing in life 8 00:00:27.899 --> 00:00:31.500 or where you want to go, I want to help you get there fabulously. 9 00:00:31.739 --> 00:00:40.929 Our double snack episode starts now. Ah, Hey, smack, kiss 10 00:00:41.009 --> 00:00:51.079 the beat dumb, episode five of Snacksie, beauty, beauty, body face, 11 00:00:51.359 --> 00:00:59.439 fin beauty face, beauty, body face fat. Yes, snacks. 12 00:00:59.640 --> 00:01:04.189 That is the single from our guests today for our very special double snack episode 13 00:01:04.310 --> 00:01:08.709 of snacks. Eye, our guests today needs no introduction. You watched her 14 00:01:08.790 --> 00:01:12.909 on Rupaul's drag race season seven, as she, in her words, worked 15 00:01:14.069 --> 00:01:18.189 that Puss all over the main stage. That's right, we have Jaden do 16 00:01:18.310 --> 00:01:22.500 your fears here at snack size podcast today and she's going to share a little 17 00:01:22.540 --> 00:01:26.340 bit about her life and how she has found happiness and success. As you 18 00:01:26.500 --> 00:01:30.180 know, we are all about social distancing here, so today we are going 19 00:01:30.219 --> 00:01:36.689 to use that good old phone a friend. Let's give Jaden Nicoll. Hi, 20 00:01:36.849 --> 00:01:40.689 Jaden, welcome to sack size. Hello, I'm so excited to join 21 00:01:40.730 --> 00:01:44.129 you this week. We are so excited to have you here. I am 22 00:01:44.170 --> 00:01:48.280 a very long time fan of Jaden's, which I will talk about and just 23 00:01:48.480 --> 00:01:52.599 a minute, but first I want to ask you how are you and how 24 00:01:52.640 --> 00:01:55.680 are you holding up during everything? What's going on in your world? Give 25 00:01:55.719 --> 00:01:57.400 us a little update. So one thing that a lot of people don't know 26 00:01:57.439 --> 00:02:01.549 about me is I am an introvert and an extrovert at the same time. 27 00:02:01.870 --> 00:02:07.189 So I actually am doing pretty well with this corona thing, because I do 28 00:02:07.469 --> 00:02:13.310 have times where I literally block myself out from social media the Internet and I 29 00:02:13.509 --> 00:02:16.300 do kind of have time to myself. So in a way this work for 30 00:02:16.379 --> 00:02:20.259 me because, you know, I'm already used to blocking things out and just 31 00:02:20.539 --> 00:02:24.020 focus in on Selfcare, taking care of myself, making sure that I am 32 00:02:24.139 --> 00:02:29.539 good, because being a drag queen can be a very, very draining thing. 33 00:02:29.780 --> 00:02:31.610 What do you do for Selfcare? I spent a lot of time just 34 00:02:31.889 --> 00:02:36.969 listening to music. Music is pretty much my drug that I don't smoke, 35 00:02:37.050 --> 00:02:40.050 I don't drink, so for me, my distraction has always been music and 36 00:02:40.330 --> 00:02:44.560 you know, any emotion that I'm feeling, I listen to that music. 37 00:02:44.719 --> 00:02:46.199 For the most part, they kind of recharge my batteries, I guess you 38 00:02:46.240 --> 00:02:50.919 could say. It's so important to recharge your batteries, especially for someone like 39 00:02:51.039 --> 00:02:53.400 you who, I know, travels a lot and does a lot of gigs, 40 00:02:53.479 --> 00:02:57.120 and even if you're not doing a gigs, you're doing things like recording 41 00:02:57.159 --> 00:03:00.789 to Po podcast with me. So you have to you have to recharge those 42 00:03:00.830 --> 00:03:05.909 batteries. It's so important. One thing that you have always done, even 43 00:03:05.949 --> 00:03:10.550 before drag race, is offer tips and tutorials on how to do drag and 44 00:03:10.669 --> 00:03:15.539 you cover a variety of different topics, like from makeup to how to brand 45 00:03:15.580 --> 00:03:19.740 yourself to even how to audition for drag race. Actually, I don't know 46 00:03:19.819 --> 00:03:22.300 if you remember this, and I think it was like seven years ago, 47 00:03:22.580 --> 00:03:25.180 but but way before you are on the show, I was in my small 48 00:03:25.379 --> 00:03:30.370 little hometown and I am sure that you remember coming up as a queen, 49 00:03:30.449 --> 00:03:34.810 if you didn't have access to clubs, there was not the Youtube and the 50 00:03:34.889 --> 00:03:38.449 tutorials that there are now, right, right. So I had googled plus 51 00:03:38.530 --> 00:03:43.360 size drag queen and you were performing at play and Nashville and I was just 52 00:03:43.479 --> 00:03:46.879 like that is what I want to do. So I messaged you. I 53 00:03:47.039 --> 00:03:50.439 was like, I need help a costuming. Do you have anyscessis? And 54 00:03:50.479 --> 00:03:53.960 you told me to go buy a sewing machine and on the previous episode of 55 00:03:53.000 --> 00:03:58.710 this podcast I just talked about how I learned how to sew in the importance 56 00:03:58.789 --> 00:04:01.389 of doing that as to invest in myself. So that actually was because of 57 00:04:01.430 --> 00:04:05.430 you. So thank you for always offering advice. Of course, absolutely, 58 00:04:05.550 --> 00:04:11.340 absolutely. I think new drag Queens in this daytime and age, they have 59 00:04:11.500 --> 00:04:15.020 such an advantage. Obviously I was doing drag before I even saw or new 60 00:04:15.099 --> 00:04:17.699 about draggers. During that time, it either you had a drag mother or 61 00:04:17.740 --> 00:04:23.139 you had to learn on your own and you didn't have as many influencers and 62 00:04:23.540 --> 00:04:27.009 youtubers, like there wasn't a such thing at the time. So I say, 63 00:04:27.170 --> 00:04:30.730 soak up all your resources that you can, especially nowadays, because there's 64 00:04:30.769 --> 00:04:34.930 no excuse for you not to learn anything. You Got Youtubecom Aka, my 65 00:04:35.050 --> 00:04:43.399 dragmother. So you are obviously a very successful person. If you had a 66 00:04:43.480 --> 00:04:46.879 piece of advice for people wanting to be successful at whatever they do, what 67 00:04:47.240 --> 00:04:51.240 would that be? I would say it's all about focus. It's all about 68 00:04:51.519 --> 00:04:56.550 focusing on whatever you want to do and having a passion. But also the 69 00:04:56.670 --> 00:05:00.990 biggest thing that I would say is take action. Nothing's just going to come 70 00:05:00.189 --> 00:05:04.110 to you and don't be envious of other people. You see other people and 71 00:05:04.189 --> 00:05:08.100 you want it. You have to pick yourself up and work for it before 72 00:05:08.139 --> 00:05:12.220 idea drag. How you even got into the industry is I am a lighting 73 00:05:12.259 --> 00:05:15.980 designer. Wow, yeah, uh Huh. I have my own soot sage 74 00:05:15.980 --> 00:05:19.339 lighting business called dw innovative, a program and set up professional, safe lighting 75 00:05:19.420 --> 00:05:23.209 and and what I do is I go out and I put up the lights 76 00:05:23.290 --> 00:05:26.730 and I do parties and weddings and concerts, like the big lights that move 77 00:05:26.769 --> 00:05:30.129 around and change colors. That's my expertise and that's what I was doing and 78 00:05:30.889 --> 00:05:34.410 ever since I was a little kid, my brother they didn't understand why I 79 00:05:34.569 --> 00:05:40.079 was just so hardcore into lighting and I didn't know at that time that this 80 00:05:40.240 --> 00:05:43.759 was going to be a business. And now you know, it brings income. 81 00:05:44.120 --> 00:05:46.000 You know, just by doing what I love to do, and that's 82 00:05:46.040 --> 00:05:49.750 lighting. So that would be my advice. You can't sit and wait for 83 00:05:50.389 --> 00:05:56.230 someone to make something happen for you. You briefly talk about negativity and I 84 00:05:56.430 --> 00:06:00.670 know that you've had a lot of your life. You know before the show 85 00:06:00.149 --> 00:06:03.939 and you know after the show aired. How do you deal with that and 86 00:06:04.220 --> 00:06:09.180 how do you ampt yourself up to keep going and be so successful as you 87 00:06:09.220 --> 00:06:13.620 are? It's all about who you surround yourself around. You have to surround 88 00:06:13.660 --> 00:06:16.660 yourself around positive people and people who are going to lift you up. If 89 00:06:16.699 --> 00:06:21.329 you surround yourself around over dramatic people, people who are Catty, it becomes 90 00:06:21.449 --> 00:06:27.009 too much and honestly, you can't surround yourself around that because if you surround 91 00:06:27.089 --> 00:06:30.569 yourself around it, you will be in drama, you will be put in 92 00:06:30.730 --> 00:06:34.079 negativity like, for instance, drag race, was an experience I wasn't truly 93 00:06:34.120 --> 00:06:39.399 reading for with when it comes to negativity from a very nice person, you 94 00:06:39.519 --> 00:06:42.319 are very nice, yeah, you're lovely, yeah, and then, you 95 00:06:42.399 --> 00:06:44.439 know, I get on a TV show and then I get a lot of 96 00:06:44.560 --> 00:06:47.350 hatred and it used to depress me because I like why me? But I 97 00:06:47.430 --> 00:06:50.550 had to realize. You know what, let me focus on my happiness, 98 00:06:50.629 --> 00:06:55.110 because I am so happy and I'm so blessed to be in the position that 99 00:06:55.149 --> 00:06:59.110 I am in right now. So I'm not going to let other people's negativity 100 00:06:59.589 --> 00:07:01.699 bother me or bring me down. That actually leads me into something you would 101 00:07:01.699 --> 00:07:04.819 said. I watch an interview your hey queen. I Love Hey Queen. 102 00:07:04.899 --> 00:07:09.860 You said I have to live my life for the future. Sitting and thinking 103 00:07:09.860 --> 00:07:13.660 about your past so much is not going to get you very far. It's 104 00:07:13.660 --> 00:07:16.529 all about progress. So, in light of everything which you said, what 105 00:07:16.730 --> 00:07:23.449 did you do to continue to progress yourself? I guess in your art it's 106 00:07:23.490 --> 00:07:27.410 one word hustling. I have been working my butt off, even though sometimes 107 00:07:27.449 --> 00:07:29.970 it's not good enough. You know, I was taking money out of my 108 00:07:30.040 --> 00:07:33.360 own pocket, flying my own self to La and doing, I mean show 109 00:07:33.399 --> 00:07:36.279 after show at the show, back to back to back, trying to keep 110 00:07:36.319 --> 00:07:41.680 my face in the spotlight. The more people see you, the more they'll 111 00:07:41.759 --> 00:07:45.829 remember you. I don't want to be that Queen a few years down the 112 00:07:45.910 --> 00:07:48.110 road and season fifteen that came out, they're like hold on, which one 113 00:07:48.230 --> 00:07:53.069 is Jaden, even if I'm not the most popular one, and like Princus, 114 00:07:53.310 --> 00:07:56.310 I don't get paid the money that a lot of the other drag race 115 00:07:56.389 --> 00:07:59.420 girls get. For me it's different. You know, I still make all 116 00:07:59.500 --> 00:08:01.779 my costumes. What I like to have designers, absolutely in the future. 117 00:08:01.819 --> 00:08:05.259 That's what I'm looking forward to, is having professional designers to do my own 118 00:08:05.300 --> 00:08:09.180 costumes and sell me some hair. But in the meantime, if I can't 119 00:08:09.379 --> 00:08:13.129 afford it, I'm going to say, you know what, no, I'm 120 00:08:13.170 --> 00:08:16.449 going to do this costume myself because I can make it bigger and better it 121 00:08:16.569 --> 00:08:20.290 will. I won't say better, because sometimes my my designs aren't better, 122 00:08:20.410 --> 00:08:24.569 but I should at least bigger for less money. I guess that's what I'm 123 00:08:24.569 --> 00:08:26.050 trying to say. A couple things that I hear you saying. Is One, 124 00:08:26.160 --> 00:08:30.360 that you invested in your challenge, which I think is amazing, and 125 00:08:30.480 --> 00:08:33.279 that's one thing I've always noticed about you, is that you are really hands 126 00:08:33.559 --> 00:08:37.919 on in your process. But the other thing I'm hearing, and that I 127 00:08:37.080 --> 00:08:41.870 really want the listeners to pick up on, is that you are not letting 128 00:08:41.950 --> 00:08:46.070 your circumstances define what you're going to do. My favorite part about making my 129 00:08:46.110 --> 00:08:50.389 own garments is when I come around the corner or out of the curtain, 130 00:08:50.509 --> 00:08:54.549 when the spotlight first hit and the audience sees you for the very first time 131 00:08:54.549 --> 00:09:00.539 and they see you're outfit and you get that initial crowd reaction. That's what 132 00:09:00.779 --> 00:09:03.740 makes it work. Wow, it's great that you say that, because I 133 00:09:03.940 --> 00:09:07.379 actually tell a lot of young queens that is what keeps me so in transfer 134 00:09:07.419 --> 00:09:11.490 drags that moment just right when the music started and it's getting doing. He's 135 00:09:11.610 --> 00:09:16.570 so magical. So I'm really glad that you highlighted that because I hope that 136 00:09:16.730 --> 00:09:20.370 people, whatever they do, they will know that they are on their path 137 00:09:20.490 --> 00:09:24.519 and doing the right thing if they have a magical moment like that. So 138 00:09:24.799 --> 00:09:28.360 on the show you had your coming out to your family. Can you talk 139 00:09:28.559 --> 00:09:33.960 about what their support meant to you and is that support still around the day 140 00:09:35.039 --> 00:09:37.590 and how that fulfills you in life today? So a little background is I'm 141 00:09:37.710 --> 00:09:41.350 very, very, very close to my family. My Dad and my mom 142 00:09:41.509 --> 00:09:46.389 is separated, but my dad is overly supportive of me as of now. 143 00:09:46.629 --> 00:09:50.149 You know my mom. She is the one I was most worried about, 144 00:09:50.149 --> 00:09:54.019 to be honest. She's very religious and you know. And then I have 145 00:09:54.179 --> 00:09:58.100 three older brothers. I thought my brothers actually, would you know, they 146 00:09:58.100 --> 00:10:01.580 were going to be the ones who didn't like me or like wouldn't talk to 147 00:10:01.620 --> 00:10:05.620 me. Well after it aired, my mom was the one that was, 148 00:10:05.259 --> 00:10:09.730 you know, more kind of like angry and upset, and my brothers were 149 00:10:09.889 --> 00:10:13.690 very, very exciting to the thing that shocked me more than anything it's my 150 00:10:13.850 --> 00:10:18.570 oldest brother, Brian. He was like he called me, he's like hey, 151 00:10:18.649 --> 00:10:20.529 where are you, and I was like, Oh, I'm out of 152 00:10:20.610 --> 00:10:22.679 town. They were just like oh well, oh, I was going to 153 00:10:22.679 --> 00:10:26.240 see if you come over for the viewing party. And I said viewing party, 154 00:10:26.720 --> 00:10:28.320 and he was like yeah. I was like okay. Well, what 155 00:10:28.399 --> 00:10:35.269 are you watching? Football? Like no, because literally, like that's the 156 00:10:35.309 --> 00:10:39.190 only time we get together in the family and watch something football. It was 157 00:10:39.230 --> 00:10:43.549 like no, to watch you like on TV, and I was like what 158 00:10:43.149 --> 00:10:46.429 you know, and it's crazy to me that like they even tuned in to 159 00:10:46.509 --> 00:10:52.460 watch it was crazy my family. They asked me, why are you acting 160 00:10:52.580 --> 00:10:54.980 like that on TV, and I said, well, what do you mean? 161 00:10:54.539 --> 00:10:58.019 They were like you have more of a list, you are moving your 162 00:10:58.100 --> 00:11:01.740 hands, you're acting feminine on TV. Why are you acting like that? 163 00:11:01.820 --> 00:11:07.169 That's not you. And the thing I had to tell them was. Well, 164 00:11:07.370 --> 00:11:11.490 Y'all have known me for x amount of years, but y'all actually truly 165 00:11:11.649 --> 00:11:15.129 don't know that that's always been me. It's just that when I was around 166 00:11:15.169 --> 00:11:18.169 my family, I was more quiet, I didn't use my hands, I 167 00:11:18.370 --> 00:11:20.320 watched the way I talked, to things that I said, and that's been 168 00:11:20.399 --> 00:11:26.600 happening literally my entire life. I have always connected with that part of your 169 00:11:26.679 --> 00:11:30.559 story. But one thing that I didn't know that I think is super at 170 00:11:30.559 --> 00:11:33.269 least important to me, is that I don't want to say that it's just 171 00:11:33.629 --> 00:11:37.590 in black families, because I feel like every family you have to deal with 172 00:11:37.669 --> 00:11:41.190 a coming out story. But in black families I've always felt a need that 173 00:11:41.269 --> 00:11:45.470 if you were gay or you were feminine, you had to police your body 174 00:11:45.509 --> 00:11:48.620 around them, like how you act and how you move your hands, and 175 00:11:48.059 --> 00:11:54.940 so I didn't ever feel one hundred percent myself until I was able to have 176 00:11:54.139 --> 00:11:58.059 that moment where I was able to say, you know, this is who 177 00:11:58.059 --> 00:12:00.779 I am, and then I just felt like, you know, this whole 178 00:12:00.820 --> 00:12:03.690 other person came out that is super feminine and stuff like that. But I 179 00:12:03.690 --> 00:12:07.529 knew as a child that that wasn't the right thing to do and it's like 180 00:12:07.570 --> 00:12:11.450 you graining you. This is the way a man acts, and one of 181 00:12:11.490 --> 00:12:16.840 the best things about being a drag queen is that it allowed me to discover 182 00:12:18.039 --> 00:12:20.440 myself without any rules. I mean we do have rules in the dry community, 183 00:12:20.679 --> 00:12:24.879 but in terms of like gender and you know, how to act, 184 00:12:24.960 --> 00:12:28.120 those rules don't really exist for us. Let's talk about what is next for 185 00:12:28.240 --> 00:12:31.470 you. Do you have any siety projects coming up? You know, I 186 00:12:31.990 --> 00:12:37.549 live in Nashville, sin a fee, and this city is pretty monopolized as 187 00:12:37.590 --> 00:12:41.149 far as work for Black Queens. You know, it's just harder to work 188 00:12:41.350 --> 00:12:45.259 as a black queens here. It it you have to work ten times with 189 00:12:45.340 --> 00:12:48.940 hard a lot of black queen are very talented but they've been sitting at home. 190 00:12:48.419 --> 00:12:52.100 Can we talk about that? I find myself here in Minneapolis in the 191 00:12:52.139 --> 00:12:56.899 same struggle, where the game is different for Queens of color. What are 192 00:12:56.940 --> 00:13:01.769 your thoughts and your experience on why that is? Oh my gosh, I 193 00:13:01.809 --> 00:13:03.929 could talk about this for an hour and and a half. Famic, I 194 00:13:03.970 --> 00:13:11.289 can to grow like summarize it in hit point, but like I noticed that 195 00:13:11.450 --> 00:13:16.759 even every single drag ray season that comes out, if you notice, it 196 00:13:16.879 --> 00:13:20.120 seems like the Queens of color in order for them to be a favorite or 197 00:13:20.200 --> 00:13:24.639 succeed, they have to, I mean, jump in and out of hoops, 198 00:13:24.679 --> 00:13:28.590 or they have to be a certain type of black queen. You know 199 00:13:28.750 --> 00:13:31.429 one thing that angered me my season, when it comes to it, as 200 00:13:31.509 --> 00:13:35.269 we were in untook and I was upset at by the Chopski. Some of 201 00:13:35.350 --> 00:13:39.629 it they didn't show, but by that had a major attitude. So when 202 00:13:39.909 --> 00:13:43.580 I went to untook, I like to beat the people in a calm manner. 203 00:13:43.740 --> 00:13:46.220 You know, I'm not a hot head or anything like that. So 204 00:13:46.580 --> 00:13:48.299 when I spoke to her, you know, it's just like I was angry 205 00:13:48.700 --> 00:13:52.779 and you know, I was just like like, I'm going to talk to 206 00:13:52.860 --> 00:13:54.970 her, though, as an adult. So I'm choosing my word so I 207 00:13:56.129 --> 00:14:00.649 don't come off because I don't want to become or be viewed as an angry 208 00:14:00.690 --> 00:14:03.809 black girl, because I'm not. So I'm sitting here and I'm just talking 209 00:14:03.929 --> 00:14:05.809 to her and unsust and I was like hey, violet, like I honestly 210 00:14:05.889 --> 00:14:09.970 felt like you did. Blah, blah, blah, Blah Blah. Well, 211 00:14:09.360 --> 00:14:11.759 you know, she kind of come in it back and she was just 212 00:14:11.799 --> 00:14:16.320 kind of like nonchalant and blew it off. So I didn't think anything big 213 00:14:16.480 --> 00:14:22.080 of it, but some people were commenting online saying who Jaden is so scared 214 00:14:22.159 --> 00:14:24.070 of her, she's so scared. Oh, it's a lose lose situation, 215 00:14:24.190 --> 00:14:28.549 because if I would have popped off on her, then y'all have that angry 216 00:14:28.669 --> 00:14:31.669 black girl, the angry black girl. Yes, if I speak to her 217 00:14:33.149 --> 00:14:35.470 calmly and I and I try to say, you know what, let me 218 00:14:35.669 --> 00:14:41.179 not get any emotions and let me try to have a calm, adult, 219 00:14:41.419 --> 00:14:46.740 mature conversation, then it becomes a BH. Well, she's so scared. 220 00:14:46.820 --> 00:14:50.820 Oh, but it also it's like when a non black girl a lot of 221 00:14:50.860 --> 00:14:54.610 times when they get an attitude, people are like yes, like who she 222 00:14:54.769 --> 00:14:56.970 told her, yes, ma'am, and then when a black girl does it, 223 00:14:58.450 --> 00:15:01.009 it's more like, oh my God, really girl, Oh, she's 224 00:15:01.049 --> 00:15:05.289 so angry. You know, it's very frustrating. Have you gotten the now? 225 00:15:05.409 --> 00:15:09.200 You're difficult to work with? Um? Well, not me personally, 226 00:15:09.600 --> 00:15:15.919 but I do see that that is a thing that happens and I've seen many 227 00:15:16.080 --> 00:15:18.759 other girls as well with it. Oh, they're difficult to work with. 228 00:15:18.879 --> 00:15:20.279 Oh, they're difficult to work with. Some of them are, but there 229 00:15:20.320 --> 00:15:24.110 are a lot of girls who are not difficult to work with. It's just 230 00:15:24.269 --> 00:15:28.750 that y'all have a very low tolerance for certain girls, if that makes it 231 00:15:28.990 --> 00:15:31.269 there, if they're of color, if the yeah, MMM, if there 232 00:15:31.269 --> 00:15:35.620 are cold. It's very frustrating and it's something even off the show. It's 233 00:15:35.700 --> 00:15:39.620 what I did with that's why I don't work at play anymore. When I 234 00:15:39.700 --> 00:15:43.220 was on cast there, I never felt appreciate it not by the crowd, 235 00:15:43.539 --> 00:15:46.899 not Bible Bartenders, not by the step, but by two people in management. 236 00:15:46.940 --> 00:15:50.649 It was like I could never be enough, no matter what I did, 237 00:15:50.809 --> 00:15:54.370 no matter how long I work there. Since two thousand and eight I 238 00:15:54.610 --> 00:15:56.649 was never enough, and that's the way I felt. Do you remember a 239 00:15:56.809 --> 00:16:02.610 specific moment where you said I've had enough and I'm going to find better for 240 00:16:02.769 --> 00:16:06.960 myself? So absolutely. It actually happened after dreg race and it was actually 241 00:16:07.000 --> 00:16:10.399 my last night of being there. If I am having a disagreement with the 242 00:16:10.480 --> 00:16:14.080 other person, I like to step in that other person's shoes and say, 243 00:16:14.360 --> 00:16:18.830 let me see their side as well and see if I can kind of get 244 00:16:18.909 --> 00:16:22.870 my emotions on on a level to where I can kind of understand. And 245 00:16:22.190 --> 00:16:26.470 you know what, when I was working there, I found myself doing that 246 00:16:26.549 --> 00:16:30.710 all the time and it got to the point where I know they are working. 247 00:16:30.950 --> 00:16:33.500 You know, I told the owner and I said, you know what, 248 00:16:33.659 --> 00:16:37.740 enough is enough in Nashville. There's only one gay club here. You 249 00:16:37.820 --> 00:16:40.740 don't have other options. It's like, well, if you're not working here's 250 00:16:40.779 --> 00:16:42.980 you're not working anywhere else. And it goes back to the thing where I'm 251 00:16:42.980 --> 00:16:47.610 excited about in the future. ME, my drag daughter and my drag sister. 252 00:16:48.009 --> 00:16:49.850 We are pretty much a girl group. We call ourselves the mystic. 253 00:16:51.009 --> 00:16:55.370 We have a website or which is the misfits dragcom and what we're doing is 254 00:16:55.769 --> 00:16:59.690 we're showing Nashville that we could be successful. We started our own brunt shows 255 00:16:59.769 --> 00:17:03.159 over now, over a year ago and we had a full year of sold 256 00:17:03.240 --> 00:17:08.359 out brunches. I mean it's been amazing. When we went in to negotiate, 257 00:17:08.400 --> 00:17:11.640 I sat down with the owners of its place called disconsider, which is 258 00:17:11.680 --> 00:17:15.589 a sidery. It is a all inclusive place. They have like food and 259 00:17:15.750 --> 00:17:21.029 fighter but they wanted a drag brunch there and we stepped in and we've been 260 00:17:21.029 --> 00:17:25.109 selling out those brunches every single month for the past year. Everything has been 261 00:17:25.309 --> 00:17:29.789 so amazing and so great. And the fact of the matter is is we 262 00:17:29.910 --> 00:17:33.059 come full circle with this whole thing. Like we call ourselves misfit because we 263 00:17:33.180 --> 00:17:37.460 didn't fit in in the city, quote unquote, but not because of the 264 00:17:37.539 --> 00:17:40.259 people, not because of the crowd, because the crowd is always loved us. 265 00:17:40.539 --> 00:17:44.410 It's only because of people in management at that one place. But now 266 00:17:44.450 --> 00:17:48.930 that we're gone, look at what we're doing. What I love about that 267 00:17:48.130 --> 00:17:52.970 story is that you did not wait for an opportunity to come to you, 268 00:17:52.089 --> 00:17:55.849 you know, you knocked once on the door and then beat it down and 269 00:17:56.049 --> 00:17:59.960 made it happen. And I think that when it talks about achieving your goals, 270 00:18:00.319 --> 00:18:03.559 being successful in life, sometimes that is what it takes. You have 271 00:18:03.720 --> 00:18:07.839 to create your own opportunities for your own path, and don't be scared to 272 00:18:07.920 --> 00:18:10.839 do it, because I'm sure it was probably frightening, you know, losing 273 00:18:11.000 --> 00:18:12.910 the Gig that you always knew and then go on into your own thing. 274 00:18:14.109 --> 00:18:17.829 But with all this success, it was definitely the right choice. So do 275 00:18:18.069 --> 00:18:21.349 not be afraid to go out there and make it happen for yourself. Well, 276 00:18:21.390 --> 00:18:23.190 I'll be honest, we were all scared. We were, I mean, 277 00:18:23.230 --> 00:18:26.029 we were so nervous. We already knew that it was going to be 278 00:18:26.109 --> 00:18:30.259 a good a good amount of people. We had a line furtling around the 279 00:18:30.299 --> 00:18:33.579 building and then the flotlight came on and I came out and when I tell 280 00:18:33.619 --> 00:18:37.099 you, it was the most exhilarating thing. And then the following month was 281 00:18:37.140 --> 00:18:40.180 like, Oh, I hope it's just as good as the last month. 282 00:18:40.339 --> 00:18:45.049 And it just proved time and time again, keep working for keep working hard 283 00:18:45.210 --> 00:18:47.930 for what you want to do. It's not going to be easy, but 284 00:18:48.089 --> 00:18:49.529 it's so worth it. An end you. But you have to realize you 285 00:18:49.609 --> 00:18:56.640 have to become a business woman or business a businesswoman had yeah, I want 286 00:18:56.640 --> 00:19:00.000 to ask you one more question. What advice would you have, as who 287 00:19:00.000 --> 00:19:03.599 you are now, to your younger self? Just be yourself more like I 288 00:19:03.880 --> 00:19:08.240 feel like I lost out on so many years of my life, you know, 289 00:19:08.359 --> 00:19:11.750 pretending to be someone who I wasn't, because I do wish, if 290 00:19:11.750 --> 00:19:15.309 I could take one thing back, I wish that I was out before I 291 00:19:15.430 --> 00:19:18.789 even got on direct but who knows? I needed a story line, so 292 00:19:18.950 --> 00:19:25.940 who knows me if I didn't have it? So thanks, Rupaul, and 293 00:19:26.220 --> 00:19:30.700 what a beautiful, beautiful storyline it is. Thank you, so much for 294 00:19:30.819 --> 00:19:33.539 sharing. If you want more jading, you can follow her at Jaden fierce 295 00:19:33.579 --> 00:19:38.009 on instagram. Yes, and also, if you guys can follow our girl 296 00:19:38.130 --> 00:19:41.849 group misfits drag, we also have a podcast coming up there as well. 297 00:19:42.250 --> 00:19:47.650 So yeah, check out the MISSTITCH DRECOM and I'm really excited about that. 298 00:19:47.769 --> 00:19:51.170 So if you guys follow that, that would be a huge blessing. I 299 00:19:51.809 --> 00:19:56.240 definitely am gonna Follow and when Miss Rona decides to give us a break, 300 00:19:56.279 --> 00:19:57.880 honey, I'm going to come check out the show for sure. I cannot 301 00:19:57.880 --> 00:20:02.599 wait to see it absolutely. Thank you so much, Dadd for coming to 302 00:20:02.680 --> 00:20:04.960 snack size and I hope you stay safe and healthy, and thank you, 303 00:20:06.039 --> 00:20:08.390 snacks for listening. We will see you all next time. 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